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Feed Her Constantly Everyone knows food is important to pregnant women. But what the uninitiated might not realize is that time is of the essence.
Feed that woman immediately or she will eat your fucking face. It means give her a snack before you leave for the restaurant. And then again when you get in the car. Failure to give that woman snacks will result in extreme bitchiness at best, and bodily injury at worse. And while some of that still applies, all bets are off when it comes to food. Get Ready to Gain Weight Notice how all the topics so far have involved food? But whatever the craving, one of the unmentioned side effects of pregnancy is YOUR weight gain.
Yes, the guys gain weight too. Mainly because we inevitably partake in her cravings and all the extra junk food results in a spare tire.
So watch your step. I knew MJ was pregnant and pregnant women gain weight. In my mind it was just nature progressing and running its course, and there was nothing more beautiful.
But after the first times I said it, she snapped on me. Which leads me to my next point…. Pregnancy Brain is legit. But it soon progresses to things like leaving the basement door open in 5-degree weather and freezing the entire bottom floor of the house while simultaneously leaving us susceptible to a home invasion.
Unfortunately, my pregnant wife does not appreciate my unique brand of humor whilst carrying our little parasite around in her stomach. The first trimester is by far the worst. You have a week window where her sex drive returns early in the second trimester.
They swell up to gargantuan sizes, literally breaking bras at the seams and popping off her chest in a fit of Playboy glory. Not only that, but any suggestion to the contrary will send your pregnant wife into hysterics. Some sort of memory foam or pillowtop deal that makes you feel like 1, little angels are massaging you as you fall asleep every night? You become increasingly irrelevant as the pregnancy wears on, but the 37 pillows — including that godforsaken full-body pillow — become absolutely vital nighttime companions.
I try not to let MJ open doors, carry groceries, pick up heavy objects, etc. And for whatever reason, that sticks in her craw something fierce. Their bodies are growing, stretching and changing to accommodate said life. But the fact remains, pregnant women are L-A-Z-Y. Case in point, a disturbing trend has emerged in the Daddy Files household the last few weeks.
Instead, she brings them into the kitchen and puts them a foot away from the sink. Moreover, all of the coffee cups are half-filled and every bowl has a ton of soggy cereal remaining in it. Seriously, just think about you complaining and what her response will be. Seriously funny and truthful! I gained almost as much as my wife did!
Yes, 6 is so true- not a lot of funny. I am so glad you mentioned 9. Justin- Writing Pad Dad recently posted.. Look at it this way Aaron. Take some of those rules and multiply them by 3. Great hilarious and true synopsis, Aaron!
I think you should also make a list for those folks who may need a refresher on what to do once labor starts and after the baby or babies arrive, because that roller coaster is far from over! My most important piece of advice would be to make sure she has a cold non-alcoholic drink nearby at all times after delivering!
Melinda Shaw recently posted.. So true and so funny. Best Movies of On the losing the sense of humor point, asking her what the sense of humor fairy left in return is also not a good idea… Great list, Aaron!
I also got my first case of hemorrhoids. Pretty sure, the former and the latter were both supposed to happen to my wife, the soon-to-be-mother and not me, the soon-to-be-dad.
As someone who, until then, had weighed lbs. Not because I went and paid for an outrageously expensive gym membership. Instead, simply by chasing my toddler daughter around the house in an effort to put her shoes on so that we can go to daycare. Great cardio in the AM. I am forwarding this to my husband. The pillow thing hits close to home. Crazed in the Kitchen recently posted.. And get stuffed, boyo.
First of all, this site is my personal site and has ZERO to do with my full-time day job. Daddy Files recently posted.. I was told early on about the dangers of complaining and ignored. Also with 4, whenever another person mentioned how big she looked, I felt the wrath. Baby spit up vs Puppy puke. I hate how I still get in trouble even on the few occasions I manage not to screw up! Some people have way too much time on their hands.
You are the man. I needed a laugh. Luckily though Hannah has a man who has been a single dad, cleans, cooks, fixes things and is a Marine, so she gets all the bennies of a maid, butler, handyman, nanny and security service all in one package.
It is all so true! We laughed hysterically — until he laughed a little too hard and pissed me off. Dude, with the exception of 12 I think you made my day. Everything else is true. My husband really likes the couch. We even moved it up to our bedroom. On the good side she argues like crazy and loves to point out every little thing I do wrong.
How can I make her feel more comfortable? Just thank your lucky stars your wife is an outlier. You can do things and carry heavy things for her, if you casually get to them first. Beware of the urge to feed pregnant women tons of junk food. The tiny bladder may veto all urges for a little while. Sometimes, the hormones will go crazy for 5 minutes, and you have to start NOW.
Body parts that are growing a lot need to be touched differently. She may want to go straight to third base, or otherwise massively change the routine. She may forget to feel pretty till you flirt. Her first trimester may be utterly easy, or full of nausea. The second trimester is good to most women. The third can be tiring, particularly the last month, and she may start to worry about kicking off early labor. The hormones can be seriously weird, and prompt sudden needs anytime.
I really love your blog! Love your sense of humor! Wish I would of seen this earlier! I managed to read this section carefully with pregnant woman, jah neh, I learnt some other facts…lol…. Thanks to Sex in the City, the Kardashains and Hello Magazine my wife has this dream of a perfect pregnancy that is impossible to live up to. Invariably each of these schemes ends up being half-baked or an out and out fail — probably because we are busy trying to prepare for a new born fricking baby.
Of course I could try talking some sense into her…. Nail on the head my friend. Nail on the head. Good luck and smooth sailing! School Pictures are Obsolete. A lot of these are spot on!/p>
I had the same kind of life as you have now. Once the kids got old enough I made the decision that I would rather live in a tent than continue to live as I had. Once he figured out that I was halfway out the door he perked up. Time to give something to yourself.
You only have one life and no one cares as much about you, as you should care about yourself. Even the kids will leave and assume their own life, as they should. You are stuck with a deadbeat for what little time you have left.
Get with it today! Im no psychologist, but I was also a victim of child abuse much like Helen, and I think she does the same exact thing that I do; anything a man does, good or bad, we can use against them because our minds perceive it as bad. It is possible her husband was doing well by working hard and putting in a generator, but Helen could only feel a sense of abandonment and hurt.
She doesnt mean to. Meanwhile the husband could be weary of trying to make her happy and its never worked, so he is grumpy often. A man getting hungry also could have been perfectly normal, but she couldnt help but feeling unloved. She may be so wounded that she does not know how to receive love, which in turn pushes it away.
I am 29 and I am unable to receive or give love, maybe Helen has the same difficulties stemming from childhood trauma. Helen, so sorry that you have had these type of men in your life but believe me when I say, all men are not like your husband. Start planning now to make a change in your life.
Figure out your financial future and keep your self fit. Men will notice you and probably already have. Wife not working, 2 grown children at home and works overtime, probably to make ends meet.
The power goes out and he gets a generator to get the power back on for his family and this woman does nothing but complain online. Well there are 2 sides to every story. You call him passive aggressive and looks at you with a long face. He is probably tired of having a selfish and uncaring wife!
Like I said, there are 2 sides to every story. Do him and yourself a favor and get out of his life. I can relate to Helen. However I worked and took care of our children, home and him. He worked full time and its as though I were a stay at home mom. I worked nights to feed our children and take care of them. I once was without a job and I asked him for money for groceries. Not even to feed his starving children!
I hated him with all my soul. Of course this story continues …. I hope you and you children are in a healthier, happier place. I am a 58 year old divorced female and will tell the truth. I am fat and ugly. Basically that is why I cannot have a relationship with a man. I used to be attractive but after divorcing, bringing up two daughters, working full time to support my family and pay a mortgage and having two relationships where I was dumped for no reason other than the men wanted to play the field, I am over it all and have grown fat and frumpy because I am lonely and depressed.
They look at me like I should not show my face anywhere, like I am blocking their view of the pretty, younger women and should be at home with the cat. Men my age have been ignoring me for years, except to insult me and spend their time flirting with much younger women only to then complain how they cannot find a woman when these young women rightfully reject them.
Men are too picky when it comes to looks. I can look great and yes, even sexy but not when I feel like a piece of crap which I am made to feel like because I am over 50 and over the hill. Yes I have given up and it shows, a catch I was hopeful at first but as the years went by, I have realised that is just plain deluded.
I hope you get to a place where you love yourself for you — who you are, what you stand for, what you do — and not how others perceive you. June, if you feel fat and ugly others will see you that way, too.
You will love yourself. You need to bring back that self esteem and get involved in something beyond yourself that has passion. You are in control of your life and where you head ion the future.
Come up with a plan and choose a path of happiness and success. I too can feel your pain and I agree with you. Men are only interested in looks and think with their penis. You need a personal trainer and good nutrition. I think it is very unfortunate that so many women chose the wrong husbands.
What did you not see early on? We spent a couple of years apart to date other people but we finally married when I was We both have great careers and work on our family as a team. Why would anyone settle for any less? Life is way too short to not live and love to the fullest. You have to put each other first. The kids will be fine not being on a pedestal. The reward is happiness and a loving partner when the kids are gone and you have each other. In the end, your kids have a great example of a loving marriage.
I look at it from a financial perspective. The odds of that are very slim. If I remarry, I would either have to divorce before 60 to get that, or hope that guy I married has a similar earnings record. Plus, I had so much debt from caring for our daughter that I am still paying off that the idea of taking on a spouse and their financial obligations and risks yes HIGH risks is not worth it to me. I can love someone without being married to them and having to pay their medical bills.
My ex is remarried and his new wife is now taking care of him and his father who are both aging and getting sick. This is a pretty average story for women in their later years. They seem to be done with me.
They look through me as though I were a pane of glass or something. I feel exactly the same way. I look good for 48 but I am not young. Never get past the first date…. You are looking in the wrong places! I make 60, a year on my retirement and own 2 homes and yet I would never respond to women like that for fear of being turned down. No I am not on the prowl I was just setting myself up for my wife dumping me! Which she has done after I gave her 24 years of faithfulness and a nice home.
I am petite, AA, well-employed close to retirement , with a grown daughter and a home of my own. And you should have high standards. Maybe keeping yourself open to the possibility is a more positive way of approaching things than giving up. There are good people out there; we just need to keep showing up. Good luck, and thanks for writing. Girls, or should that be ladies? Variety is the spice of life at any age, and the quality of our lives is based on the quality of our relationships.
My wife of 20 years divorced me because she felt she was neglected. She had a list of complaints that amounted to garden variety wife complaints.
It was a strange accusation because I spent time every day listening to all of her problems. I loved spending time with her. We went on dates all the time, and she was very enthusiastic about our intimate life. I started dating and I naturally tried to date women close to my own age.
It stuck me as silly to date women decades younger than me. Yet, how can I be so wonderful, when my wife left me for the same reasons these women left their husbands? These women are strangely willing to overlook the fact that I have all the same bad habits as their ex husband.
I have no idea what this means, or what it says about female midlife crisis. My children have suffered horribly because of our divorce. It has caused them to question everything about their childhoods. They thought things were great. I would never get involved with one of these women. They have no character. Your observations are pretty much on the mark, James. You made me laugh!!! I am a 53 yo lady, My husband left our marriage 10 years ago, I was shattered but what could I do?
If he was not happy — he was not happy…… I got on with my life, worked hard paid off a small home and raised and educated our daughter, who has gone interstate with her career. Now, 10 years later it is my turn, if I meet someone nice then great. There is no such thing as the flawless partner, you are right, James……. The only positive thing about being a women in this situation is that you can try to become interested in other things besides sex and become a more mentally interesting.
There is literally zero upside to you in getting that marriage certificate and there is a high probability at some point that she is going to want out, even if you are a good guy. Women in their 50s know more about who they are and what they want then they did when they got married the first time. I know many women who are unhappy in their long-term marriages but they stay with these men because they have children and living on one income is pretty tough these days. I am not one of them. I did date for years, but have never found someone who fit what I have come to expect in someone that I could love — respect, interest, humor, financial security, physical attraction — and most important not boring.
I am their rock. I have a decent job and a career that is sometimes fulfilling. Is this all that there is? My husband left 10 years ago and it was all up to me to provide home education and stability. And funnily enough Saturday night for me too. I am 53 and now alone, so now it is time for me I guess. Everyone says it is truly difficult to find someone to make a good partner.
Will do all the things that I would like to do now, and if a good man comes my way that is a bonus. We do our best for our children. Now it is time for us. If you want a relationship in later years, you have to commit to the relationship as you would as a youngster, then we have the fact that older women generally have grandkids, they become the doting granny, they forget about the relationship they are in.
There are so few younger women interested in older men that men have to be realistic about their options. I have been married for over 20 years. Not attractive, not ugly. Sex life is non existent and I DO crave sex…. That was about a year ago. Treats me as if I have no brains when in fact I am well educated and have a lot of common sense. I get tired of being treated as an inferior. After reading all the posts for what they are I see that his side of the story would be mich different.
He would likely say that I have too many outside interests, am cold and untouchable. It is really frustrating. Why do I stay? It seems so daunting too….. We stay stuck because the known is easier than the unknown. OK, but is that what you want in life? If you think you can make it work, go for it; it only takes one to start something as long as you realize after a point, it needs to be reciprocal. Divorce can be hard, but so is being in an unhappy, sexless marriage. Just think of what your daughter is experiencing and I would have a good, long talk with her; she probably will offer a bit of a wake-up call if she is honest with you.
They are much more honest than fear. Please let me know how things go. Dogs, cats, horses for physical touch and affection. Kids, grandkids, girlfriends for the gamut of social interaction and relational interaction. Yes to the guy, talk, talk talk. I happen to like that males are males; when I want female energy, I hang with my galfriends. I hate to break this to the women, but once a women hits 30, there marketability in single scene starts to diminish radically with men there own age, who naturally prefer women younger than them.
Even if women are done with middle aged men, they still need them to be doing the lion shares of the work in the economy and pay the taxes to fund the government socialist programs that benefit women at the expense of men. That said, almost all of my something friends are happily partnered with something men and one something , and two just got engaged. Are you planning to care for your mom like she cared for you as a boy? Men in their 40s and older are not a good bet if a woman wants to have children.
By 40, a man has a 1 in 50 chance of fathering a child with schizophrenia and a study in Sweden found by 45 the odds are closer to 1 in Another study found they average 10 years less of academic study. Researchers say this is due to the lower quality sperm of older men.
A woman is 5x more likely to have a miscarriage if her partner is 40 and the risks of miscarriage increase as her partner ages. Other studies link higher incidents of neurological problems with children at birth to older fathers.
One researcher said these studies are just the tip of the iceberg for diseases linked to the mutations in the sperm of older men. Men 45 and older on average take 5x longer to get a woman pregnant and are 5x more likely to take a year or more to get a woman pregnant.
Basically, the older he is the less likely he is to get a woman pregnant and the longer on average it will take and the higher the risk to the child for various diseases. This is why women want to dump their men. Get tired of it being shoved in my face, happy for him to go find what he is looking for. Tired of being out to eat and him groveling at something much younger. Middle age life sucks when you are married and dealing with crappy behaviour from a spouse.
In my experience many middle-aged women on first encounters still seem to behave as if they think they are as sexually desirable as a young woman. They act coy and wait for you to call; they think they are really desirable. Most middle aged women look like bags of sand when compared to a healthy woman under 40yo. This is reality so women need to make it easier for men and forget the old mind games that work for an 18yo beauty.
Looks are important to men on first meeting. Young women simply cause older sluggish penises to jump to vertical attention. Young women are generally positive, energetic, and can actually be impressed. Older women tend to be more accomplished and worldly but jaded, generally unimpressed by men as a point of ego or political correctness and bitter from bad experiences.
As people age they tend to filter their talk less and carry more emotional baggage hence the stereotype of the nagging shrew, unfortunately all too commonly encountered in reality. Phil, you sound somewhat jaded, sorry. By middle-age, many have addressed those issues face on; the young? Not so much; more self-absorption than self-awareness, as is appropriate for that age.
Spoken like a middle aged woman: Sexier than all those hot young women? But, you have to define sexy. Do middle-aged women have the same bodies as somethings?
Not quite, even those of us who work out, eat right and stay fit. But a body alone does not make a woman sexy. Confidence, brains, a sharp wit, a flirtatious demeanor — all of those go much farther in creating allure, mystery and, yes, sexiness think Helen Mirren.
Those women often attract much younger men or smart men their own age who are tired with the drama, insecurities and self-absorption of women their own age or younger. Still, I see and know many more attractive and interesting single middle-aged women than middle-aged men in the SF Bay Area. Much may depend on where you live.
I wonder who made them that way? My bet would be on the men they were in relationships with. Also, I have gotten this far down the comments and have not seen what I think is an obvious — although touched upon, not directly stated — there are sexual things about being a wife that just get to be too much after so long. You end up middle aged with a man jacking to porn wanting anal once a week and other stuff the other 6 days.
Truthfully, I wanted my babies. I got them, I raised them and now all this sex every dang day seems only to serve one person — and it hurts. He has lived off me for 24 years and I raised my kids by myself financially with him on my back, too. I am tired and am no longer interested in ceding my body to his pleasure while tears run down my face.
Middle aged men are not that attractive either. If they are overweight or bald, ugh. If most women had the option of dating younger, I think they definably would. Phil sounds like some one I work with, my work colleague laughs and jokes with me and then refers to my age 57 as though I grew up on a differant planet. He is 47 and he is married as am I. Since hitting menopause I have found a new strength and confidence I really feel like nothing can stop me doing anything I want to.
This is not unusual as in my experience if you seem younger in attitude and then your age is realised you are made to feel like you are cheating and that you should have your age stamped across your forehead.
Way to go Jan!!! It is fun finding that zing in life again!! I like the toys too. I never realized sex could be so good. So … by the men I will be made to feel like I should have been able to communicate with my man to help him know how to please me. Men can be very rigid unless of course they are demanding something from their SO. Ask them to do something out of their comfort and non interest zone, hmmmm not going going to happen. First, I just turned 55 whoo hoo!
However, all of my friends and most of my siblings have been, or still are, married with children. In addition, I make a point of smiling, it does great things for our facial muscles, and I think it makes us a bit more approachable.
I wish I could tell you how often conversations have been started with someone, men included, simply because of a smile. I went home and pulled out my moisturizer to see if a new ingredient had been added… perhaps a pheromone or two that I missed in the ingredients list.
And, yes, I have some of the same angst we all have of getting older… I say embrace it and just see what happens! Less is not more on the mating battlefield. I am a 50 year old divorced, then my ex shortly thereafter died. That was many years ago almost 14 years now. I have had the same thought come into my mind for some time now. Sometimes I feel like I just want to leave, move, start over, and maybe at some point, find someone special.
Someone who is chivalrous, caring, loving. It seems they are extinct. I am casually dating a doctor from where I work, however, he is from a foreign country and is ultra conservative in every respect. Sometimes I think about just taking off, leaving everything behind.
Just taking what I can carry, get in my car and just end up in some small seaside town where I can just chill out and enjoy the quiet and peace and serenity. Whatever that may be.
Does any of this make any sense to you all, or am I just being crazy here??? Any thoughts would be welcome. I feel very alone and undecided about the second phase of my life. Linda, thanks for sharing your story. It is what we make it to be; no one makes it for us. You now have the freedom, time and energy to think about what you want the next decades to look like; I hope you explore that with gusto! LMAO ,ofcoarse ,u got the house ,the kidz,the k ,child support,alimony the vehicles etc.
I think the majority of women who got married young feel a miss of contemporary lifrstyle, an era that partly contribute to the fact that more people aee postponing marriage. I cant speak to every poster but perhaps every milestone passed must be celebrated as accomplishment of building a legacy, having a time off without a complete separation, perhaps switching the roles a bit, going back to school, schedule workout together, basicly to make effort to add few dimensions as an andividual and as a couple.
All these advances in technology comes and goes, the carefree life isnt that rewarding cause at the end of that light, nobody actually really cares. Only your legacy will. I wonder if anyone feels a violation to your own wedding vows? Thanks for commenting, Sue. I like your idea of celebrating milestones with reinvention within a marriage. Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels.
Not everyone is good marriage material. This is quite possible the most retarded thing I have ever read. Yet, here this one is complaining because life has become habitual. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. As a man — who because of the loss of my partner through bereavement — has been without a woman in my life for about five years now, I have learned the hard way about what it means to be older.
Expectations are far too unrealistic too as to what relationships should be. There is far to much emotional immaturity in our very western culture at this time and that lies to some extent at the heart of the subject of this very good blog.
To me there is nothing better in life and that takes learning and going through quite a lot of living and experience to get to that stage. Al, thanks for writing. I do think we could learn a lot from other cultures and the way they approach marriage and child rearing.
I hope you join us as we launch an Occupy Marriage movement! Al your post is wonderful. A man who appreciates emotional bonds. I was widowed at My husband and I met when I was nineteen. It was in many, many ways a wonderful marriage, with years of wonderful sex and ultimately, much more importantly, mutual support through all the innevitable ups and downs. There were the financial problems, the deaths of parents, the struggles through work. But there was much joy and steady, solid mutual support and companionship.
His death just after his 53rd birthday was unimagined by both of us. I am now, at the time of writing this, just older than he was when he died. I still have moments when I find myself surprised that I am here and he is not. The death of a long-term partner has been compared to an amputation.
To me it felt like losing my skin — being flayed — and suddenly vulnerable to an alien world. It has been, and still is, a very slow process trying to gather myself together, find myself again, but I have been seeing other men. I have tried some on-line dating and the results are sometimes, frankly, scary. Is it because women still feel that their value is judged by whether or not there is a man in their life? What I am certain of is that I miss the company of men and this is not just because I struggle sometimes with cleaning the gutters, walking the dogs, checking the oil in the car, mowing the lawn as well as working full-time ….
Oh — and I have no intention of taking up knitting! I have taken up motorcyling instead. The knitting might come when I am eighty. Thanks for comments and I am so sorry for your loss, Lyra. Enjoy your bike, be safe and be open to the possibilities. Lyra, My life was very similar to you. I got married when I was 19 and widowed at Since we were happily married, I never thought I would have to re-invent myself at this late age. I participate in a lot of boot camp type exercise classes and square dance 2 to 3 times per week.
Since I look a lot younger than 64, it is not unusual for men in their mid-forties to ask me out. I politely decline telling them that I have a daughter their age. Most of the men my age have not taken good care of their health. I would like to travel and have some fun first. Like you, I am not taking up knitting.
I hike, kayak, play bocce, and go to various square dancing festivals. I would be receptive IF the right man came into my life. Until then, I will continue to do it alone. I was devastated when my ex left me 16 years ago for a woman whose last name was Cheatham yep! I am attractive, fit, am a lifetime equestrian, volunteer, have good friends, no addictions and am a professional. A lot of middle-aged women feel the same way, Rocket — we no longer want to compromise to the point that we feel consumed by a relationship.
So, we may have to be a bit more accepting of such stuff if the core of the person is good. What we need is a good-enough fit and someone who excites us!
Most of them only want the younger women and when I say younger I mean early 20s. I have health problems and I get hit on by my doctors as well. There are definitely men out there interested in women their own age and most men have unrealistic expectations of being able to date younger. Stick a fork in me, I am so done with men!
I am 49, turning 50 in September, married for 25 years, two grown children, one grandchild. I was a stay-at-home mother, as my husband worked a swing shift job, that made it hard to work outside the home, as well as not very cost effective. We also relocated with his job, which left me without any kind of support system. My husband was and still is very abusive, physically, mentally, and verbally! I resent him so much, to the point of hatred. We relocated again in to a different state, so I though it would be almost like starting over, but you cannot change the character of person.
My husband is 10 years older than me and has an ego so large, I am not sure how he stands up so straight. Me on the other hand, I can actually say, that I used to be attractive. I am not being conceited, I am just stating a fact. With that being said, you would think that my husband would think he had quite the catch, right? During our entire marriage, he has looked at other women right in front of me, real creepy like. I would feel so humiliated, and confront him, and he would say I was crazy, that he was not looking at anyone.
He bought a harley, and went out on that every night of the week to which ever biker bar was having their special that night, while I stayed home with the kids. He got to go golfing, bowling, nascar races, ext. I was and still am an excellent cook, excellent housekeeper, and good mother, and aways took care of my appearance, and most importantly, I was faithful my entire marriage!!! I did not know who she was, as he never mention her before. As we got closer to her, he was all smiles and joking with her like something I had never seen before, even slapping his knee and bending over laughing.
I find out later that she is 7 years younger than me, is not married, just living with a guy, and works directly with my husband. Not only that, a few months later, a dinner for his company, that same woman walked into a crowed dining room, looked directly at my husband and waved, while I was sitting next to him. I looked at him, and waved. Oh, but I am the crazy one, thinking his is up to no good?
What do all of you think? I think men truly think woman are suckers!!!!!! I mean he is going to be 60, and now, oh how could I leave him or want a divorce?! Men need to think of how they are treating their wives all along, not when they are ready to retire, and have to split their k and pension!!!!!
Life is a zero sum game. Like ,get rich worry about keeping your money and becoming dependent on excessive materialism, develop love any activity that takes a lot of time and displace other former multiple interests, yearn for intimacy and lose many elements of individual freedom. It is not wrong to desire love , affection, sex, but there is a price to pay for it.
You gain all the intimacy then have an obligation for constant communication, exclusionary time requirements, expectations on plans and finances, integration of family issues , and so on. Men and women often work well together as a team but also understand the individual need to actualize on who we are and how we want to live. Modern life has so many forced required burdens both real and expected that being alone seems the only way to escape a kind of personal negative bondage.
It takes a special man and women to understand and allow each other the freedom to be who they are and still enjoy each other. We are all competing with an enormous information power produced by advertisers and society and turmoil sells more than contentment. Be all you can be and constantly compare yourself to others is the message we receive and we know the evil in that. Not at all, the Known Truth.
You can still love and be committed to someone without a gold ring. After 24 years of being with the same lady and now 2 years after the divorce, I am finding the dating scene royally stinks for men and women. Maybe because of feminism or the media, maybe because women are tired of men???? Come on…sure a lot of men are pigs, jerks etc etc. BWW makes pumpkin spice wings Consumer.
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In industrial areas housing was in short supply as people doubled up and lived in cramped quarters. Prices and wages were controlled, and Americans saved a high portion of their incomes, which led to renewed growth after the war instead of a return to depression. The Allies saw Germany as the main threat and gave highest priority to Europe.
American ground forces assisted in the North African Campaign that eventually concluded with the collapse of Mussolini's fascist government in , as Italy switched to the Allied side. On the home front , mobilization of the U. The wartime production boom led to full employment, wiping out this vestige of the Great Depression. Indeed, labor shortages encouraged industry to look for new sources of workers, finding new roles for women and blacks.
However, the fervor also inspired anti-Japanese sentiment , leading to internment of Japanese Americans. The terms of this executive order resulted in some , people of Japanese descent living in the US removed from their homes and placed in internment camps. Two-thirds of those interned were American citizens and half of them were children. United States Supreme Court case. Research and development took flight as well, best seen in the Manhattan Project , a secret effort to harness nuclear fission to produce highly destructive atomic bombs.
Army Corps of Engineers. Robert Oppenheimer was the director of the Los Alamos Laboratory that designed the actual bombs. The first nuclear device ever detonated was an implosion-type bomb at the Trinity test , conducted at New Mexico's Alamogordo Bombing and Gunnery Range on 16 July The Allies pushed the Germans out of France but faced an unexpected counterattack at the Battle of the Bulge in December.
The final German effort failed, and, as Allied armies in East and West were converging on Berlin, the Nazis hurriedly tried to kill the last remaining Jews.
The western front stopped short, leaving Berlin to the Soviets as the Nazi regime formally capitulated in May , ending the war in Europe. Though the nation lost more than , military personnel,  the mainland prospered untouched by the devastation of war that inflicted a heavy toll on Europe and Asia. Participation in postwar foreign affairs marked the end of predominant American isolationism.
The awesome threat of nuclear weapons inspired both optimism and fear. Nuclear weapons were never used after , as both sides drew back from the brink and a "long peace" characterized the Cold War years, starting with the Truman Doctrine on May 22, There were, however, regional wars in Korea and Vietnam. Senate on a bipartisan vote approved U. The primary American goal of —48 was to rescue Europe from the devastation of World War II and to contain the expansion of Communism, represented by the Soviet Union.
In , the United States replaced piecemeal financial aid programs with a comprehensive Marshall Plan , which pumped money into the economy of Western Europe, and removed trade barriers, while modernizing the managerial practices of businesses and governments.
Soviet head of state Joseph Stalin prevented his satellite states from participating, and from that point on, Eastern Europe, with inefficient centralized economies, fell further and further behind Western Europe in terms of economic development and prosperity. In , the United States, rejecting the long-standing policy of no military alliances in peacetime, formed the North Atlantic Treaty Organization NATO alliance, which continues into the 21st century.
In response the Soviets formed the Warsaw Pact of communist states, leading to the " iron curtain ". In August the Soviets tested their first nuclear weapon, thereby escalating the risk of warfare. The threat of mutually assured destruction however, prevented both powers from nuclear war, and resulted in proxy wars, especially in Korea and Vietnam , in which the two sides did not directly confront each other.
The unexpected leapfrogging of American technology by the Soviets in with Sputnik , the first Earth satellite, began the Space Race , won by the Americans as Apollo 11 landed astronauts on the moon in The angst about the weaknesses of American education led to large-scale federal support for science education and research.
In the decades after World War II, the United States became a global influence in economic, political, military, cultural, and technological affairs. Beginning in the s, middle-class culture became obsessed with consumer goods. In , the charismatic politician John F.
The Kennedy family brought a new life and vigor to the atmosphere of the White House. Kennedy to his Cabinet as Attorney General. Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas , Texas, on November 22, , leaving the nation in profound shock. The climax of liberalism came in the mids with the success of President Lyndon B. Johnson —69 in securing congressional passage of his Great Society programs.
Gradually, liberal intellectuals crafted a new vision for achieving economic and social justice. The liberalism of the early s contained no hint of radicalism, little disposition to revive new deal era crusades against concentrated economic power, and no intention to redistribute wealth or restructure existing institutions. Internationally it was strongly anti-Communist. It aimed to defend the free world, to encourage economic growth at home, and to ensure that the resulting plenty was fairly distributed.
Their agenda-much influenced by Keynesian economic theory-envisioned massive public expenditure that would speed economic growth, thus providing the public resources to fund larger welfare, housing, health, and educational programs. Johnson was rewarded with an electoral landslide in against conservative Barry Goldwater , which broke the decades-long control of Congress by the Conservative coalition.
However, the Republicans bounced back in and elected Richard Nixon in Nixon largely continued the New Deal and Great Society programs he inherited; conservative reaction would come with the election of Ronald Reagan in Starting in the late s, institutionalized racism across the United States , but especially in the South , was increasingly challenged by the growing Civil Rights Movement.
For years African Americans would struggle with violence against them but would achieve great steps toward equality with Supreme Court decisions, including Brown v. Board of Education and Loving v. Martin Luther King, Jr. Following his death others led the movement, most notably King's widow, Coretta Scott King , who was also active, like her husband, in the Opposition to the Vietnam War , and in the Women's Liberation Movement.
There were riots in American cities in the first nine months of Native Americans turned to the federal courts to fight for their land rights. They held protests highlighting the federal government's failure to honor treaties.
He led a five-year-long strike by grape pickers. A new consciousness of the inequality of American women began sweeping the nation, starting with the publication of Betty Friedan 's best-seller, The Feminine Mystique , which explained how many housewives felt trapped and unfulfilled, assaulted American culture for its creation of the notion that women could only find fulfillment through their roles as wives, mothers, and keepers of the home, and argued that women were just as able as men to do every type of job.
Protests began, and the new Women's Liberation Movement grew in size and power, gained much media attention, and, by , had replaced the Civil Rights Movement as the U. S's main social revolution. Marches, parades, rallies, boycotts, and pickets brought out thousands, sometimes millions.
There were striking gains for women in medicine, law, and business, while only a few were elected to office. The proposed Equal Rights Amendment to the Constitution, passed by Congress in was defeated by a conservative coalition mobilized by Phyllis Schlafly.
They argued that it degraded the position of the housewife and made young women susceptible to the military draft.
However, many federal laws i. The controversial issue of abortion, deemed by the Supreme Court as a fundamental right in Roe v. Wade , is still a point of debate today. Amid the Cold War, the United States entered the Vietnam War , whose growing unpopularity fed already existing social movements, including those among women, minorities, and young people.
Johnson 's Great Society social programs and numerous rulings by the Warren Court added to the wide range of social reform during the s and s. Feminism and the environmental movement became political forces, and progress continued toward civil rights for all Americans.
The Counterculture Revolution swept through the nation and much of the western world in the late sixties and early seventies, further dividing Americans in a "culture war" but also bringing forth more liberated social views.
Johnson was succeeded in by Republican Richard Nixon , who attempted to gradually turn the war over to the South Vietnamese forces. He negotiated the peace treaty in which secured the release of POWs and led to the withdrawal of U. The war had cost the lives of 58, American troops. The Watergate scandal , involving Nixon's cover-up of his operatives' break-in into the Democratic National Committee headquarters at the Watergate office complex destroyed his political base, sent many aides to prison, and forced Nixon's resignation on August 9, He was succeeded by Vice President Gerald Ford.
Communist victories in neighboring Cambodia and Laos occurred in the same year. The OPEC oil embargo marked a long-term economic transition since, for the first time, energy prices skyrocketed, and American factories faced serious competition from foreign automobiles, clothing, electronics, and consumer goods.
By the late s the economy suffered an energy crisis , slow economic growth, high unemployment, and very high inflation coupled with high interest rates the term stagflation was coined. Since economists agreed on the wisdom of deregulation , many of the New Deal era regulations were ended, such as in transportation, banking, and telecommunications.
Jimmy Carter , running as someone who was not a part of the Washington political establishment, was elected president in In , Iranian students stormed the U. With the hostage crisis and continuing stagflation, Carter lost the election to the Republican Ronald Reagan. Ronald Reagan produced a major realignment with his and landslide elections.
Reagan ordered a buildup of the U. The Soviets reacted harshly because they thought it violated the Anti-Ballistic Missile Treaty , and would upset the balance of power by giving the U. However, by the late s he decided the system would never work and should not be used to block disarmament deals with the U. There is agreement that the Soviets realized they were well behind the Americans in military technology, that to try to catch up would be very expensive, and that the military expenses were already a very heavy burden slowing down their economy.
Reagan's Invasion of Grenada and bombing of Libya were popular in the U. S, though his backing of the Contras rebels was mired in the controversy over the Iran—Contra affair that revealed Reagan's poor management style. Reagan met four times with Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev, who ascended to power in , and their summit conferences led to the signing of the Intermediate-Range Nuclear Forces Treaty.
Gorbachev tried to save Communism in the Soviet Union first by ending the expensive arms race with America,  then by shedding the East European empire in The United States emerged as the world's sole remaining superpower and continued to intervene in international affairs during the s, including the Gulf War against Iraq.
Following his election in , President Bill Clinton oversaw one of the longest periods of economic expansion and unprecedented gains in securities values, a side effect of the digital revolution and new business opportunities created by the Internet.
He also worked with the Republican Congress to pass the first balanced federal budget in 30 years. In , Clinton was impeached by the House of Representatives on charges of lying about a sexual relationship with White House intern Monica Lewinsky.
He was acquitted by the Senate. The failure of impeachment and the Democratic gains in the election forced House Speaker Newt Gingrich , a Republican, to resign from Congress. The Republican Party expanded its base throughout the South after excepting , largely due to its strength among socially conservative white Evangelical Protestants and traditionalist Roman Catholics, added to its traditional strength in the business community and suburbs. As white Democrats in the South lost dominance of the Democratic Party in the s, the region took on the two-party apparatus which characterized most of the nation.
The Republican Party's central leader by was Ronald Reagan , whose conservative policies called for reduced government spending and regulation, lower taxes, and a strong anti- Soviet foreign policy. His iconic status in the party persists into the 21st century, as practically all Republican Party leaders acknowledge his stature. Social scientists Theodore Caplow et al.
The presidential election in between George W. Bush and Al Gore was one of the closest in U. The vote in the decisive state of Florida was extremely close and produced a dramatic dispute over the counting of votes. Supreme Court in Bush v. Gore ended the recount with a 5—4 vote. That meant Bush, then in the lead, carried Florida and the election.
While they were not able to land the plane safely, they were able to re-take control of the aircraft and crash it into an empty field in Pennsylvania, killing all 44 people including the four terrorists on board, thereby saving whatever target the terrorists were aiming for.
Within two hours, both Twin Towers of the World Trade Center completely collapsed causing massive damage to the surrounding area and blanketing Lower Manhattan in toxic dust clouds. All in all, a total of 2, victims perished in the attacks.
In response, President George W. Bush on September 20 announced a "War on Terror". The federal government established new domestic efforts to prevent future attacks. The controversial USA PATRIOT Act increased the government's power to monitor communications and removed legal restrictions on information sharing between federal law enforcement and intelligence services.
A cabinet-level agency called the Department of Homeland Security was created to lead and coordinate federal counter-terrorism activities. In , from March 19 to May 1, the United States launched an invasion of Iraq , which led to the collapse of the Iraq government and the eventual capture of Iraqi dictator Saddam Hussein , with whom the U. The reasons for the invasion cited by the Bush administration included the spreading of democracy, the elimination of weapons of mass destruction  a key demand of the UN as well, though later investigations found parts of the intelligence reports to be inaccurate ,  and the liberation of the Iraqi people.
Despite some initial successes early in the invasion, the continued Iraq War fueled international protests and gradually saw domestic support decline as many people began to question whether or not the invasion was worth the cost. While the death toll decreased, the political stability of Iraq remained in doubt.
In , the unpopularity of President Bush and the Iraq war, along with the financial crisis , led to the election of Barack Obama , the first African-American President of the United States.
However, 50, American soldiers and military personnel were kept in Iraq to assist Iraqi forces, help protect withdrawing forces, and work on counter-terrorism until December 15, , when the war was declared formally over and the last troops left the country. With regards to Guantanamo Bay, President Obama forbade torture but in general retained Bush's policy regarding the Guantanamo detainees, while also proposing that the prison eventually be closed.
In May , after nearly a decade in hiding, the founder and leader of Al Qaeda, Osama bin Laden , was killed in Pakistan in a raid conducted by U. While Al Qaeda was near collapse in Afghanistan, affiliated organizations continued to operate in Yemen and other remote areas as the CIA used drones to hunt down and remove its leadership.
The Boston Marathon Bombing was a bombing incident, followed by subsequent related shootings, that occurred when two pressure cooker bombs exploded during the Boston Marathon on April 15, The bombs exploded about 12 seconds and yards m apart at 2: They killed 3 people and injured an estimated others. These events lead to a major military offensive by the United States and its allies in the region.
On December 28, , President Obama officially ended the combat mission in Afghanistan and promised a withdrawal of all remaining U. The financial crisis threatened the stability of the entire economy in September when Lehman Brothers failed and other giant banks were in grave danger.
Obama, like Bush, took steps to rescue the auto industry and prevent future economic meltdowns. These included a bailout of General Motors and Chrysler , putting ownership temporarily in the hands of the government, and the " cash for clunkers " program which temporarily boosted new car sales.
The recession officially ended in June , and the economy slowly began to expand once again. However, overall economic growth has remained weaker in the s compared to expansions in previous decades.
Following Obama's reelection in November , Congress passed the American Taxpayer Relief Act of — which resulted in an increase in taxes primarily on those earning the most money.
Congressional gridlock continued as Congressional Republicans' call for the repeal of the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act — popularly known as "Obamacare" — along with other various demands, resulted in the first government shutdown since the Clinton administration and almost led to the first default on U.
Other major events that have occurred during the s include the rise of new political movements, such as the conservative Tea Party movement and the liberal Occupy movement. There was also unusually severe weather during the early part of the decade. In , over half the country experienced record drought and Hurricane Sandy caused massive damage to coastal areas of New York and New Jersey.
The ongoing debate over the issue of rights for the LGBT community , most notably that of same-sex marriage , began to shift in favor of same-sex couples, and has been reflected in dozens of polls released in the early part of the decade. Windsor provided for federal recognition of same-sex unions. In June , the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage nationally in the case of Obergefell v.
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