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I know for a guy, sex is over once he ejaculates. But when is the sex over for a girl? Sex is about the people involved experiencing physical and emotional pleasure together throughout, with or without orgasm, before, during and after. We ask what our partner wants throughout sex, and that communication is part of sex. One thing to understand is that men and women alike can reach orgasm more than once: Now, not everyone can ejaculate or orgasm more than once, nor can people who can do those things do them every day or even want to every time they have sex.
Many, many women have been taught that what determines when sex is over is when a male partner says that it is or reaches orgasm. We can and do have sex with more than a penis or our genitals: Women with male partners do often know when their partner has an orgasm, but not just because he ejaculates if he does: With oral sex, because semen has a taste, you can tell, and with manual sex or mutual masturbation, you can see ejaculation. Often, whatever the gender of our partner, if our genitals, mouths, or hands are around or in their genitals, we can learn to feel the contractions which usually happen with orgasm, and have a pretty good idea of when a partner is having one.
Of course, not all men or all women will reach orgasm with intercourse or any other kind of sex all the time. Sometimes, too, a woman might feel done with sex before a male partner reaches orgasm or ejaculates, just like men might have that experience. After all, we all have ways of getting ourselves to orgasm, too, for those times when our partner is not feeling well, has lost the mood or is just plain tuckered out.
In fact, sometimes we may want to have sex with a partner that is entirely about pleasing them, about their bodies and genitals more than our own or exclusive of our own altogether.
Not all people feel done with sex just because they reached an orgasm, either done for their own pleasure, nor done when it comes to their partner. If you ask me, when any two or more people are sexually active together, if everyone is doing it for the right reason and really invested in each other, none of us is really going to feel done unless we both feel done. Hopefully, that fills in the gaps for you. And by all means, if your sex education had a gap like this you saw, you might want to pipe up and say something.
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It will help you avoid and resolve arguments, saving you hours of grief. It will help you have better dates, cooler conversations and hotter sex. It will help you to stop acting like a self-sabotaging dick. And it will also help your relationships with your mom, sisters, daughters, female friends and co-workers. Go to a sports bar in any major city or college town on game day, and invariably you will run into a crew of gorgeous young women in skin-tight, cutoff referee outfits or school jerseys walking around, selling shot specials or beer buckets.
This is how everything, not just liquor, is sold to men—hand tools, shampoo, Doritos, porn, cars. All of them shamelessly use beautiful, scantily clad women with big boobs, tight asses and long legs as the vehicles to deliver their message. The problem from a mating perspective besides the obvious ethical one is that normal women feel this objectification acutely.
On the one hand, the media have established an unrealistic expectation of beauty for them to live up to, and this makes them insecure. To attract women, you must be able to take their point of view and think of them not as marketing vehicles to objectify, but as living, thinking, feeling individual humans.
You have to subjectify them: You are a young, relatively inexperienced gay man. When you walk in, you encounter an overwhelming sea of men.
These guys are all as tall as NBA players, as muscular as NFL linebackers and as sexually aggressive as a felon on his first night out of jail. They are all bigger, stronger, faster and hornier than you. Their heads all swivel toward you, and their eyes look you up and down like sexual Terminators. Any one of them could grab you, carry you out of the bar and put who knows what God knows where, and there is little you could do to stop them.
Some of them are really lame and unattractive and make crude, ham-fisted passes at you. Some are awkward and annoying. Some are even kind of angry and mean. All of these guys are very unappealing. But lo and behold, some of them are actually pretty intriguing. Yes, they are still big and intimidating, but they want to buy you drinks and pay you compliments. Some of them are really interesting and fun; they do amazing things with their lives and seem to really be into you.
They have that sublime masculine energy that is very appealing. How would you feel in this situation? Nervous, worried, scared, guarded, self-conscious and vulnerable? Some of the same male traits that frighten you the most also seem to be the most attractive to you. The guys who pose the greatest physical threat are also the same guys you can envision making you feel the safest. The guy who seems like the most egotistical player in the bar is also the one making you laugh so hard that your ribs hurt.
And this is what it is like for women every day, in every social situation, with straight guys just like you. Women are surrounded by bigger, stronger, faster men who probably want to have sex with them and could take it by force.
This is their experience not just at bars and clubs, but at school and work, on the street and the subway. Men stare at them, leer at them, make crude passes at them, and interact with them all day every day, with sex clearly the subtext of every interaction—even the briefest, most innocuous non-mating exchanges.
While this is just a thought experiment, the facts that underpin it are very real. Think about how weird that whole situation is: Most dating advice to guys fails at this first hurdle. This is totally wrong. She has to evaluate you herself. Think about the anxiety that internal contradiction could create on a daily basis. For women who are on the more anxious and delicate side, think about the raw physical courage it must take just to go out and meet men.
The courage it takes for a woman to say yes [to a date with a man] is beyond anything I can imagine. A woman saying yes to a date with a man is literally insane, and ill-advised.
How do women still go out with guys, when you consider the fact that there is no greater threat to women than men? And yet, here we are. If you want to be successful in modern mating, the more you understand this, the better you can deliver what women love while eliminating what they fear. A woman can tell how well your life is going from how you look in about two seconds.
Your face and body are leaking all kinds of cues about your sexual experience, self-confidence and personality—and she can see it all in one glance. She can smell your over-practiced pick-up artists tricks from a mile away.
She had to develop it after putting up with so much shit from lame guys hitting on her, catcalling, sexually harassing and potentially even stalking her. And believe us when we say that, from her perspective, they make up a high proportion of men—especially the ones likely to hit on her in inappropriate ways, places and times.
Psychological and environmental factors explain much of this perspective. Even if she accepts those sex differences, she still has to wrangle with the fact that many mental illnesses and personality disorders are more common among men the more dangerous ones, no less.
These male-dominated disorders include alcoholism, drug addiction, autism, schizophrenia, narcissism, white-collar sociopathy and criminal psychopathy. All of which make each random encounter with a man less likely to end in love and more likely to end with a fight-or-flight response. Most of you guys are solid dudes. Cops spend 90 percent of their time dealing with the scummiest 5 percent of humanity.
Likewise, women spend a big proportion of their time in the mating market avoiding the small percentage of guys who are the most intrusive, obnoxious or insane. There are almost too many other types of men who do things women find repulsive to name them all.
Simply put, her experience is that the worst guys come straight at her while the best guys are nowhere to be seen. The average guy finds the average woman at least somewhat sexually attractive. For some of you freaks, especially including them. By contrast, the average woman finds the average man sexually invisible, neutral, disgusting or repulsive.
Only a tiny percentage of guys inspire immediate lust in women. And most of those guys have already moved to New York or Los Angeles to become actors or models. This is a huge sex difference in initial choosiness, documented in both scientific research and online dating data, that plays out in every domain of sex and dating.
All you need to know at this point is that women are choosier about whom they have sex with; men are choosier about whom they commit to. Guys have sexual fantasies about almost all the women they know, whereas women have fantasies about virtually no men. None of this should be particularly surprising or contentious. Women are trying to do the best they can to reject you without humiliating you.
There is a deep evolutionary logic to this preference, and it has a lot to do with minimizing the very real risks they face from publicly humiliating their suitors. It was almost always better for an ancestral woman to keep a guy within her social orbit as a possible non-sexual friend rather than alienate or upset him.
They keep their physical and emotional distance, minimize contact and chatter and eliminate any signs of affection or interest that could be misconstrued as sexual. If women wanted to be cruel when they rejected you, they would ask their brothers to cut your belly open with sharp flints and pull your guts out for the wild hyenas to eat—or whatever the equally painful equivalent on Facebook would be.
Her beauty has already been both a blessing and a curse for years before you ever laid eyes on her. Yet here is the great irony about female beauty: Most women think that men are most attracted to the rail-thin models or skinny actresses that grace the covers of the magazines they buy.
Studies show that most men are attracted to women with curves and meat on their bones; the high-fertility hourglass shapes like Kim Kardashian, Sofia Vergara or Halle Berry , not low-fertility apple shapes or no-fertility chopstick shapes. Also, guys prefer women who are physically healthy and capable, with strong muscles, bones, connective tissues and immune systems, because this predicts being a sexually energetic girlfriend; a capable, protective mother; and a long-lived partner.
Unfortunately, most women think the male conception of beauty is binary: So they diet using bad health advice and spotty willpower to strive for the supermodel plank shape, and they lose both their cues of fertility boobs and butt and their cues of capability muscle , undermining their attractiveness. This self-consciousness extends to nearly every aspect of her appearance, including many areas of her body and most of what she wears.
Women put a lot of thought into their appearance. Everything they wear and display is probably a conscious choice. Every choice is a statement—but not every statement succeeds. Her friends are too polite to tell her the truth one way or the other, and guys are too horny to tell the difference. Most guys are oblivious to clothes altogether, let alone the specific, conscious choices that women make.
That one is a killer for any young woman who has put herself out there. Pay more attention next time. Just like males compete against other males for resources that matter to males, females compete against other females for resources that matter to them.
Typically, female-female competition in other animals is more about food, territory or other resources required to reproduce. And they are going to use any tactics that work—seduction, manipulation, gossip, physical violence, verbal violence—anything that works to get those guys and make them stick around.
For example, it might seem weird to men that female-female competition would ever involve something as arbitrary as the specific brands of high-heeled shoes or handbags that women wear and carry. But think about guys bragging about which micro-brewed beer they like, which concealed-carry pistol they favor or which car they drive.
Both sexes are suckers for status-seeking through consumerism. Guys know that some of our male-male competition tactics are stupid and ridiculous. This is where the similarities end, however. Women face much different social vulnerabilities. But they worry a lot more about their sexual reputation among their acquaintances, co-workers, family and neighbors.
Specifically, they fret about the existential reputational threat posed by slut-shaming in modern society. Women are vicious to each other about slut-shaming. Imagine the anxiety that comes with an ill-timed one-night stand or an indiscreet friend with benefits. It can be paralyzing for some women. This creates a downward spiral of young women feeling like they have to offer more and more sex to more and more guys just to stay in the mating game.
Thus, slut-shaming is a way of enforcing a more restrained sexual norm on other women so that not all women have to become more promiscuous than any of them would like. Given the risk of slut-shaming, a typical female strategy is to pursue short-term mating quietly, with a lot of plausible deniability, adaptive self-deception and circumstantial rationalization. One of the reasons why men who are married, engaged to be married, or have a girl friend with whom they are sexually active, engage in the viewing of pornography in secret has to do with an emotion we recently visited called shame.
As has been stated in other weblog entries on this site, shame has to do with deep feelings of self-disapproval. Shameful feelings of self condemnation can be extremely harsh, especially when it is perceived that a deeply valued belief about what is and is not socially acceptable has been violated. This is why shame is such a painful experience.
The individual who feels shame engages in total self condemnation, whether other people are aware of it or not. Shame is much more powerful than guilt because feeling guilty is connected with a single act or behavior of which the person disapproves.
There is no condemnation. Instead, there is awareness that some law or code has been violated in a single instance. Shame is much more global in nature than guilt.
It involves a complete judgment of the entire self as negative. The experience of shame is humiliating and includes feeling a sense of disgust and mortification about the self. For women, feelings of shame often have to do with body image issues. Women compare themselves to other women and fear that they are not thin enough, shapely enough, or large breasted enough to fit the stereotypical view of what is defined as a beautiful woman.
In addition to body image issues, women struggle with what is and is not acceptable about being sexual when you are female. To this day there remains the double standard that for men it is permissible to be sexual but for women sexuality represents being immoral and sinful. Yet, once married, women are expected to be sexual and erotic for their husbands. These conflicted feelings are often less intense today, in the wake of the women's liberation movement, but they still persist. For men, shame issues are directly related to sexual performance, and definitions of masculinity.
For the male, part of sexual performance has to do with getting and maintaining an erection. This is such a visible aspect of masculinity and is so very obvious that any males who doubt their masculinity struggle with the question of whether their erection is large enough to attract and satisfy women. The man wonders if he is aroused enough. Second, he has to be able to ejaculate.
The male cannot "fake" an orgasm. There is just no pretending; He either ejaculates or he does not. If he fails to ejaculate he feels less like a real man.
If he fails to get and maintain an erection he feels less like a real man. If the male ejaculates before he enters the woman he feels less like a real man and if he ejaculates too soon after entering the woman and thus, deprives the woman of her orgasm, he feels like a failure. None of this is mean to imply that the men who watch pornography have these problems.
It does imply that many men fear that these things could happen. In addition to issues of performance for the male is the issue of genital size and appearance. Beginning with adolescence it is common for boys to compare penis size with one another.
Some groups of boys even engage in ejaculation contests to test whose ejaculatory jet is the strongest and can reach the furthest. Some even engage in urinary contests to see whose urinary stream can reach the furthest. All of these are tests of masculinity for these adolescent men. Many boys become interested in weight lifting magazines with photos of muscular men whom they wish to emulate as a way of demonstrating their masculine prowess.
Then, there is the issue of fantasy life. According to Robert Stoller, a psychoanalyst and researcher on sexual issues and pornography, the role of pornography is to serve as the reverse of life events that occurred during childhood.
Children who were abused, targets of corporal punishment at the hands of parents, or who were otherwise mistreated gain joy out of pornography by identifying themselves with the sadist in these photos and movies.
In other words, they become the masters and the women become the slaves. Similarly, men who were intimidated by women as teens are able to reverse that feeling of intimidation they once felt and still may feel through the use of porn. Men are in complete charge and have complete power in the pornographic version of human fantasies, the complete reverse of their reality as children and the reverse of how they may feel as adult men.
Therefore, they identify with doing things through viewing the pornographic material that they may be too ashamed to do with their wives in real life. This sense of embarrassment and shame about these fantasies is why so many men keep their pornographic interests secret, as one patient reported to me. Stoller also writes about the concept that pornography has a fetishistic aspect to it.
A sexual fetish involves having a sexual reaction to a non-human object or a part of a human being's body. Such an erotic arousal might occur in relation to such things as shoes, underwear, feet, etc. In my opinion, pornography can be categorized as a fetish in that images are being viewed that are not alive or do not involve interacting with an entire human being.
This is part of what is referred to as the objectification of women through pornography. In other words, in the pornography, the female body is viewed as a commodity, as a thing rather as a human being. The next big step that Stoller takes in his writing is to state that the fetish object, which is not a full human being and is not real, can be treated with cruelty and violence. The men who view pornography have no wish to harm either their wives or other women.
However, they imagine harm to or at least control over a pornographic object through the fantasy world of pornography. This separation of fantasy life reversing what happened during childhood is part of what is known in Freudian psychoanalytic circles as the "Madonna-Whore Complex. The purity part of the continuum encompasses the "Madonna," or the virginal and sexually innocent girl. However, the same man wishes his wife to act like a "whore" in the bedroom, performing all the wished-for sexual acts that excite and please him.
The problem for some men is that they cannot reconcile the fact that their wives; the mothers of their children can fill the wished for sexual fantasy of the "whore. In other words, a split takes place in which their wife and the mother of their children can no longer be viewed as the "whore" but only as the "Madonna.
Therefore, the pornography must be viewed in privacy and solitude. If you doubt the power of the Oedipal conflict that boys feel in relation to their mothers, I need only point to the major fist fights and near riots that break out in high schools across America if one boy should happen to use a particular curse phrase in regard to the other boy's mother.
Real men are just as concerned for the feelings, needs and minds of women as they are for their own — not just women’s bodies and their sexual usefulness. Real men have a well-defined code of ethics and respect that they follow. You are a man, and women like men; turning into a woman would make you less attractive to (most) women. We’re telling you to simply understand women. And this is for the simple reason that understanding the female perspective helps you do much better with women, whatever your goal—whether it’s a one-night stand, a friend with benefits, a girlfriend or a wife. I'm looking at you, Now that you're married, you can drop the facade that it's super fun and sexy to twist yourself into an actual pretzel just to put a dick in your mouth. 7. You know that married people have more sex than most people think. Because you're living proof that your vagina doesn't cover itself in cobwebs the second you say "I do." 8.