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My husband has been very cold and has been distancing himself from me for some time. He has been emotionally and physically distant , and I have been craving to get some intimacy back in the relationship. My reaction to this was that we should work on things while we are still under the same roof, as we have children and that we will all be affected by such drastic moves.. My husband finally did move out, 2 weeks ago, and still insists that he wants this marriage to work.
He has not shown any remorse or has even apologised. He wants us to hang as friends and hopefully rekindle what we have lost. I am now at the crossroads..
I no longer feel that I can trust him, but i want this marriage to work. Am I just being a doormat. Dear Nadi There is no sense blaming your husband for his weaknesses which, as you have seen, only makes him angry and pull further from you.
If you are to save your marriage you must understand him, what drives him, and how you, yourself, must think and behave to pull him back into the family. Although it is unfortunate things have come so far it is probably not too late for your family if you do that which makes marriages work, rather than hold him accountable, which always destroys marriages. A person of compassion is noble, not a doormat. No Excuses Please …. Husband and wife is waiting for Who is going to take the first step….
Porn sites area bad excuse for anything…. Forgiveness is an essential quality to develop within our own consciousness. Without forgiveness we would all be condemned. He also watches a lot of porn. Plus he has quite a few women friends including his ex-wife.
About six years ago, my husband suffered a major stroke that left him paralyzed on his left side. He has visual problems and some cognitive loss. At the time, he was paying all of our bills. He told me he was just curious. Hiscomputer was filled with porn pics and videos.
I tried to give him more attention. But I became the caregiver. At first I needed to help him bath and dress. He is now able to do that by himself.
I still help with minor things like clip nails. He has not been able to find work that he can do and is on disability.
We have a 15 year old daughter. I am the sole breadwinner, housekeeper, driver, etc. I do not know if he is still on the dating sites and viewing a lot of porn.
I do not want to spy. I am not a religious person so God does not play a part in my decisions. So, I ask—is it really fair to criticize me for being angry and feeling like giving up?
Dear Ginger I will address the question about your daughter first, because the rest of her life is before her. Religious or not, we get married with the idea that if one of us has a calamity the other not just sticks around, but is there to help.
It is not an easy commitment to make, but we all do. Maybe because we are covering our own bases, but the commitment is still a living part of the marriage. Showing your daughter that it is a real part of life is a great gift you are giving her, and although many 15 year old girls are self centered, it needs to be shown to her that giving love and loyalty is a huge part of what opens her heart, while abandoning this deep feminine principle will close her heart,making her a very poor choice as a wife and mother in the future.
Your mind is betraying you right now. You know he is mostly helpless so your primitive survival drive is screaming for relief. Porn is not good, watching porn is not good, going on dating sites when you are married is not good…making your marriage work, starting with what you have, and learning how to ignite the connection…that is good.
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This morning I discovered that my daughter saw they porn and dating sites on my husbands computer at some point in the past. She brought it up during casual conversation. I asked her why and she said that she saw things on his computer. I asked her what and she said that is was pictures and dating site. She said to her it seamed like cheating. I had an already scheduled appointment with my therapist and he said that it is considered cheating.
It appears that he is in a way stalking her. He is not the same man I married. I want her to be strong and I want her to be happy. I am also worried about my mental and physical health in dealing with all of this. I want to be around for awhile to take care of her.
It was six years ago that my husband had the stroke and I found out about the dating sites. But our focus, as individuals, should be on our own qualities with the emphasis of improving ourselves. Marriage is a great mirror for that, in fact, as we are often pushed, so we can better see our weaknesses. I think your therapist is pandering to you, and adding fuel to an unhealthy fire. But it is still up to you to be selfless and loving.
So, that does not mean you walk into spinning propellers, and it does not mean you ignore the needs of your daughter. But it does mean you should consider looking at your general demeanor to your husband, and see if you are true to your vows. It is true that divorce is the right thing to do sometimes, but your first steps to learn more about marriage and your self just might save you all from the dramas that come from divorce.
Nobody should be characterized, and anyone can be; it is a choice. It would benefit your daughter to read our book, and see if her marriage can be saved, if that is what she wants it is what I want by applying a more reasonable approach to the current situation. It took me many years to get back the trust but I felt I owed it to myself and him to give it my full try and i did now he has destroyed me again.
But he feels he has erectile dysfunction and this is the cause of all his purpose. He wont go for help has gotten Cialis which he has only used with me on a couple occasions but they are all gone all 50 of them.
Tell me how am I suppose to get back to trusting when he keeps breaking it. Others suggest let him go to figure it out. After all, everyone of us is suffering through, or dealing with, or trying to overcome one psychological issue or another.
You cannot blame your husband for your troubled marriage, and you cannot condemn him according to his mental ailments.
It is outrageous to do so! Are your behaviors towards him not adding to the pressures that has him acting out in such SELF destructive ways??
Where is the loving compassion you, as a wife, ought to be expressing in your heart and mind? All you talk about is how YOU are effected; nothing about his suffering! My suggestion is you ask yourself if you are the model wife, loving and supportive, loyal and nurturing, nonjudgmental and forgiving.
The rules for marriage are not so much about how to treat your spouse as they are about learning to love outside of your comfort zone. I suggest you turn the spotlight of criticism away from your husband, and upon yourself! Sound words that I am taking to heart, thank you. I plan on purchasing the book.
I have been with my fiance for 5 years. Have been going to therapy for 1 month now. I was so heart broken and in tears ever since. What to do, do I have sex with him knowing is not love and intimacy for him?
I love this man and want to make it work. I just would like for him to have eyes for only me, be in love with me and for us to be orgasmically happy. Lonely and Sad, Thank you. Dear Judith You are right that he is merely using you biologically, but he does not know that. Because of worse than zero marital training in our society he is as much a victim as you are, it is just worse for you because you are not able to just walk away not that you want to.
He is looking for what his soul is yearning for, but his mind is driven by his procreative drive, and confused by the stupid non solutions the world has to offer. Men do not grasp love, for what it is, so it is up to the loyal wife to understand her husband and lovingly nudge him back into her heart…but chances are you are not yet acting from a heart centered place, even though you write very well.
The book will help you immensely! The course would be greatly helpful as well. I hope commitment and marriage will be the outcome from your studies… I would suggest you stop the meeting with the therapist, as your husband is using it to vent and that will only strengthen the error, as his mind rationalizes away his practical responsibilities.
I want it to be. Im going to make this work! One last question…do I share this course with him? So we both follow it together? Or do I keep all these studies to myself? Dear Judith Free will is one of the greatest gifts each of us have been given. The slightest idea that someone is imposing on our free will causes defensiveness.
For that reason we suggest you start the course and book, and after a time you can tell him what you are doing. Best, in your situation where there is already a lot of resentment, to not even mention that he also has full access, unless he asks.
The, if he does, play it cool… As you start implementing changes you can share how much help you are getting, but wait a month or so before you say anything. Paul, I have been reading all the sad stories women have written and it makes me ask why? I like the other women have been married 21years to a man that has LOTS of issues.
We have 3 remarkable children, two are almost out of college and my little guy is My 18 year old daughter had a paper to write for school and had to use the office computer because hers was out of juice and the paper had a submission deadline. She came upstairs a bit later and was visibly upset, I knew somethings wrong. I persisted calmly and sat her down and she fell apart. Its aweful when your children are victims because of someone elses fantasy issues. I reassured the girls its not there fault or mine.
This is his choice and we are where we put ourselves. I dont feel a confrontation will prove anything but make it worse. I however have some soul searching and thinking to do. I believe this is a symptom of a bigger problem. I am aware that I am also not faultless here either. But Its important how I handle this because It greatly affects my children. I am not in a position to divorce him not sure its a solution. WE Are where we put ourselves. I am mad yes Id like to kick his ass for being so stupid and If pursues these women Ill have my answer I also know all it will take is one of his manic episodes and they wont stick around but I dont have to be a doormate either.
My girls are watching me and I must make smart not emotional choices for there sakes. They want confrontation I said its respectfully my love relationship and I must make the decisions. It sucks being the only grown up sometimes, They will also need help with there Dad but for now ME First.
Not sure how there male realtionships will be affected in the future. I guess most of all its my choice to stay or go for now. Dear Sharon You have confused yourself with too much reading of differing points of view, but have come to some very good conclusions.
What we did was to establish our work in universal principles, and never stray from them in our teachings, constantly challenging ourselves to remain consistent. I suggest you do the same with your conclusions, but remain a woman and a wife. You would get a lot of help from our teachings, and hope you consider it. Thanks for the helpful reply. Part of being married is for better or worse, guess this is the worse part YUCK anyway. I am a conservative and have a strong faith.
I believe I can draw on it once again to regain my own confidence. Its never fun or funny its a sad state of the union when this rotten stuff happens but I must believe its a symptom of a weakness in my relationship. I can only control my own behavior and with prayer and alot of being my consistent self I must be get through this. If he chooses to leave me and his children its he that will loose. I am not going to go down the low road and will have to read and educate myself more to help to bring about a livable outcome for all of us.
Like I said someone has to be grown up…thank for the kind ear. I just found my husband on a dating website.. The reasons you do not confront your husband is because it will do much harm, no good, and probably spin off into much more drama. Can you imagine any person who has been caught actually responding well?? Only in a movie, perhaps, but even if he was contrite, and fell at your feet seeking forgiveness, that would be purely reactive, and short lived.
But usually the reaction is either defensive, insulted or the beginning of the end. Additionally, most women catch their husband because they snooped; which will then become an issue, which distracts. Often, sometimes years later sometimes less , husbands respond to the changed wife and take up the mission of creating a true marriage along with their wise wife who led the way.
The husband who cheats is, by definition, unable to handle his married life or wife and has found an escape. He is not of sound mind, but is damaged; and you do not know how badly. I have a similar situation. Been married 10 years , 2 young daughters. My wife and I seperated 9months ago for anout a month.
It was prompted by her built up frustration over the years. I moved to a hotel … During this time and a week previous to this I had caught her sex chatting online. I confronted her she played it down. The same week I moved out she constantly rang to make sure the comming Saterday night I would be with the kids….
I thought it strange but as I was desperately trying to fix our marriage.. I complied without question. That night my 4 year old daughter said something i wrong with her ipad.. I looked and it was pop up messenger communication sexual natured of my wife arranging a liason with a stranger… I flipped…. Well a month later I moved back in..
She promised me it was a one off… I forgave… Since then I recently found out she has been having an affair for 8months. She confessed I got angry found the guy… She broke it off.
Since then I have had trust issues. I opened a Ashley Maddison account and tried to look for her… Yesterday I found her pretending to be someone else. She was ready to meet me and stated she is in an unhappy marriage looking for fun. Our sex lives are great.. She openly admits that but letting it go so many times, I feel she thinks its acceptable behavior that if found out i will over look if I catch her. I dont want to teach my childrren that someone can do the same to them and they should always forgive.
I would be surprised if you did not fall into this routine, and suggest you look at your behaviors towards your wife with a critical eye. How a wife leaves her husband is almost never typical. Your wife, for instance, got into a pretty self destructive routine in her search for her way out, and I am sure her mind is doing the best it can sorting everything into rationalization that makes it all seem okay to her.
I would laser focus on our materials, books or course, or both; and let her know you are trying with all you have…but I would not expect anything from her in return. But you do need to work on the only person who you can influence; you! Hope this is helpful. I read what you say to do but I felt like you were blaming me for his behavior.
I am not going to take the blame for his behaviors.. If he walks well he walks I really do not care but I refuse to be the escape goat for his misgivings. However, the fact is neither women or men understand marriage when they get married or ever, in most cases , and by the time the marriage is falling apart it is almost always only one of you that wants to do anything about it. If you go through our blogs you will see that when a man comes for help he is told what he needs to do, and when a woman comes for help we tell her what she can do; and it is not the same.
If you are able to tame your anger, which we teach in our materials, you will be in a better place to be objective about whether to stay or not. If you have children we hope you stay, but that is general, and sometimes not the best, either. Either way, we teach people how to be married, how to manage their emotions and how to succeed.
I hope you look at more of our material before you write us off. All of a sudden, he is ALWAYS working during the week, weekends, holidays, late nights , yet our bills are no longer being paid and now my paycheck is disappearing too. I have RA and started my infusions. I asked him to come to the first appointment because I was scared and did not know how I would react to the medicine.
Now he has his phone with him and made another fb page and another gmail account. He says he loves me, but his actions show different. I have caught him in so many lies and he is so sneaky now. I know he is using drugs and he has gotten is several car accidents and our auto insurance got canceled.
My depression is so bad and I am in such a dark place. My son is almost 18 and the only one I am concered about is our puppy and who will take care of her. I know it will hurt my dad, but I have decided to kill myself. I just cant take losing the love of my life and my best friend.
The pain is too great. If it were not for great challenges none of us would grow psychologically or spiritually, so the right attitude to have about challenges is gratitude.
The truth is that as a human being you have greater opportunities than any other living thing; but they are only opportunities. It is up to you to learn how to conquer life, and make yourself happy. Nobody can make you happy! Your husband is doing all kinds of wrong things, but think about how much damage he is doing to himself! You need to be as objective and loving as you can, or you will never see the way out of your pain and suffering.
I know you can do this,and I am sure the stresses, the situation and even the medications you take are all impacting you. But it is your challenge, and you need to do the best you can…and do not be ashamed or afraid to get some help!!!
There are times when we just cannot do it alone, and this sounds like one of those times for you. Need advice for my daughter. Her husband was diagnosed with adult ADD and takes adderall. He is in school after the Navy and works part time. He has all the classic ADD symptoms and she had a hard time adjusting at first but is trying to accept. He also has had a binge drinking problem and has ended up in the hospital because of that.
He has, for years lied about how much he is drinking. He has been unfaithful and has been on dating sites a couple of different times.
He says it is her that is abusing him. She is so confused. She has not always had the best reactions to his unfaithfulness and his drinking, but I believe that is a human reaction. She wants to have the marriage work, but he moved out- at least part time, he does help with the baby. I am worried because he tends to take adderall and drink and I am worried about him driving with my grandson. Should she continue to try? He will improve for awhile and then start the same behavior over again.
Should she live her whole life like this? Dear Judy My heart goes out to all of you, as your situation is so very difficult, and not fixable by either you or your daughter. However, the drinking was part of the package your daughter married, it appears. She likely knew about the drinking before she got pregnant.
She knew what she was getting into, and chose to have a child anyway. Now, no matter how you slice it, they will be together in some fashion for the rest of their lives. This is a fact! So, the many negatives your daughter, her husband, and your grandson face may seem insurmountable.
But, still, you must try to help your daughter, and your son in law, if you can. My humble opinion is that you reach out to your son in law and show him love in any motherly way you can, so he has a connection to his family as he goes through his personal trials. Resolve to be there for him, without being an enabler of course. Make yourself a saint to him, but not a martyr. You know, the only reason people drink is to alter their consciousness, thus escape.
If one is complete in themselves, by feeling love, there is almost no chance they would want to alter their consciousness. Be supportive of their keeping the family together in every way you can without being intrusive, and take care of your grandson as often as possible. Free will is key to healing ourselves, Nobody can force another to do what is best, we can only offer.
Yes, my daughter obviously knew of the drinking problem before the baby was born. They met in college and I believe since she had gone through some tough times, she loved him and felt she could help him. She has always been the type to look out for her friends in need. He says he did think they were perfect for each other at first, but I believe the drinking, the hard Navy life for the first couple of years, the ADD and ups and downs with medication, took a toll.
My daughter always said she took her marriage vows very seriously, but now after the back and forth, she is not so sure. I see our grandson every week so we are very involved as are the in laws, who are wonderful people, but are so amazed that their son is doing this, they seem to ignore and try to act as if everything is normal. We have talked in the past, but he seems to not hear a lot of what I have tried to discuss, as his ADD gets in the way and he just blankly stares or nods his head.
I am not sure how to approach him. How do I talk to him when he deals with ADD and has a short attention span, be motherly and help him.
I am at a loss. I do think my daughter maybe not this week, since she is still reeling from his pics on the dating site will be open to trying. Dear Judy I am glad you are more open to my perspective now, because I want your daughter and son in law to have the kind of life they should have, based on what marriage is, and what it gives. I have seen some true miracles based on what people have come to expect.
The courses and books that came after have it all too, so when a wife goes for it, and uses what we teach, the failures are so rare that I cannot recall any; and I have seen much worse situations than your family is now faced with. But, unless your daughter 1 truly wants her family back some subconsciously give up and 2 finds our approach as viable, we cannot help. The power of the wife is missed in modern society, as women have had to fight for social equality, and then find her self while battling ignorance.
But the truth is women are the dynamo of mankind because of their heart-centricity. This does not mean, in any way, to become a doormat!! But the power of love is the greatest power, and your daughter needs to understand what all that means so she can apply it.
I understand that she would have to be committed to the idea of saving their marriage. I will bring your program up to her. One thing I notice through your whole presentations and letters is that it is the wife that must do these things. Are you saying that in everyone one of your cases, the wife does all of the studying, learning, and changes and the husband just naturally changes and is happy with his marriage?
That he will always stop his destructive behavior if the wife changes her ways and attitudes? Dear Judy Men are limited in their perspective because of how the innate drive to survive works through the male psyche. Obviously, because there are no absolutes in the world, there are times when men step up to the plate first.
But normally it is the wife who takes the lead. Usually it is within months, though. I suppose it depends on the two individuals, but yes, the wife is in the drivers seat once she understands what we teach and begins to apply it. You are leary, and expectedly so, because there is so much misinformation at our finger tips.
The teachings we put out are nearly pure science, and the results are very predictable. There are of course exceptions, like how bad your son in law is reduced by the drugs and alcohol, but we can be hopeful. The reason we guarantee our courses is because we only want success, and it can take time, so there is no 90 or day guarantee…it is forever. If your daughter is drawn to use our teachings she will absolutely benefit, and hopefully to the point of healing of her husband, and family.
I still think it is a good idea for YOU to let your son in law know you still love him, because he is driving through hell right now, and he needs love and a hand ready to lift him out, or at least encouragement to try. We grew up together, have 3 children, two of which will be 18 soon. I never dreamed for a single second he would have an affair. My curiosity was peeked after his sudden extreme interest in a form of sex, that I am not in the very least interested in.
I understand that our interests change as we age. However, this was learned behavior. One sign I should have caught, is how over protective he is over his phone. One was an email from the woman who is a Realtor.
He has her in his phone as an employee where he works. Here is the short version. He denied, denied, denied. We are just friends. The most recent affair was during a time I battled cancer. I realized how short life is. I always thought he was the sweetest, most loyal, loving family man. Everyone is in shock. No one believes he is capable of being THAT guy.
My kids want me to leave him. This affair destroyed a family. They threw themselves at me. He leaves out, years later, he reaches out for more. Everyone says they expected out of the two of us, it would be me having affairs. Dear Sloan There is so much confusion in the world about what marriage is, and why men and women act the way they do, and what one should do in this case or that. It is why I sorted universal principles into a process to help couples, and then into a first book, then a second.
Your challenge is not as much with your husband as it is with understanding what the heck is going on. In other words, our books, or course, would be ideal for you. Cherry picking one or another topic for you would never do, it would only add to your confusion. But I will say this; if you want your marriage to work, and to have more than you even thought possible, you will almost for sure be able to have that.
Is there any way or circumstances that you can tell him that you know about this or better not at all? We are only married for a year. Dear Lara, I would describe your situation as needing more than a bandaid. But that is not easy to find for marriage. It is mostly random ideas, or spiritual ideals, which are not so easy to follow. Your husband is hooked on porn because of many factors, but if you knew how to be there for him he would be able to disengage from this terrible addiction; as that is what it becomes for men.
I am glad that your love is true, that you do not condemn him. That is the right way. Perhaps our teaching can help you. I think they can. Paul, my problem might be a little different. He loved me at the beginning and we felt comfortable being with him, so we got married.
Now we have a 2 year old daughter. I want to save the marriage for two reasons 1 Security is more important to me than love. We run a business together, so we are more than business partners during the day, and roommates at night. We have sex once a month. Plus, I am a extreme give and take person based on fairness in nature. Dear Tina I appreciate your candor, and I will be candid with you, too.
Your use of the word love is based on emotions, and is therefore limited. There is real love, which is spiritual in nature.
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